Word: angers
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...clinical psychologist practicing in Newcastle, Australia, Michael Currie has worked with adolescent boys and their families for 20 years. Much of his attention has centered on the anger that can consume boys during their high school years. Manifesting in the home as sullenness, disobedience and fierce assertions of independence, teen rage confuses and distresses parents, who often make matters worse with their clumsy, if well-meaning, attempts to address it. In his new book, Doing Anger Differently, Currie explores what's at the core of boys' anger and lays out the dos and don'ts of the parental response. Between...
...What's the difference between the anger of adolescent boys and the anger we all feel from time to time? In its essence, not a lot. Anger is made of two components: one is an idea that there's something wrong, two is that someone else is to blame. The difference in adolescence is the struggle behind the anger. The teenager is trying to grasp the responsibilities and freedoms that come with entering the second epoch of life - that between childhood and adulthood. His identity is fragile, and it can be inevitable that anger comes with that...
...this anger necessarily a bad thing? No. Saint Thomas Aquinas talked about anger being an attack on the evil present in the mind, and how if one ignores this evil - the thing that's wrong - the result is sadness. The truth that has to be mastered in adolescence is that a boy can do whatever he likes, inside the law. Leaving those boundaries is a fundamentally self-destructive thing...
...focus of your book problem kids or the average teenage boy who sometimes shouts at his parents? Both. A lot of my work with teenage anger has been with the 5% of the male population in early high school, trying to help them find other ways of addressing what's wrong rather than swearing at teachers or being violent or smashing property. But there are boys across the spectrum of anger difficulties, and all could benefit from their parents knowing more about how to manage things...
...What kind of damage can adolescent anger do to families? Enormous damage. It can destroy the bonds that keep a family together. A problem with anger is that it's contagious. When parents have an angry son in the house, it's very easy to get caught up in that anger and to respond in kind. When the son starts yelling, they yell back. If his parents keep responding in this way, the son will begin to feel there's no place for him in the home...