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...unfaithful relationships. It’s the girl who seeks perfection in a lover; it’s the guy who always likes to feel in control. At Harvard we know competition and many of us know how to prioritize ourselves—our needs—above all. Brandt says Harvard couldn’t be a more ideal breeding ground for the psyche of the cheater—and looking at the real-life stories, it’s hard to disagree...
...Almost everybody cheats as some point, that’s just a fact of life,” Brandt says. “But there are some people who are drawn to these behavioral patterns more than others. It’s those who are imbued with a high sense of personal value. You see the world as your oyster, and you think there is nothing wrong with taking everything that world has to offer...
...Brandt didn’t attend Harvard, and her national book tour never brought her within these Ivy-covered gates. But somehow the description she gives of the cheater seems to hit particularly close to home. Many of us were brought up to believe that we were special. At Harvard, this sensibility infuses much of what we do and causes many of us to think that our hard work should reap substantial rewards. When cheaters among us whisper about their indiscretions, their stories usually fit within this framework...
Brandt’s basic argument—something she calls “the most profound statement one could make on cheating”—hinges on several key points. Brandt argues that when women are confronted with men, on a biological level they are always forced to subtly consider their nurturing potential. Women inherently are attracted to men who appear able to serve as good fathers—a criterion that often leads women to choose men that appear healthy, attractive and able to provide financial support...
Talk about relationships is infused with the language of sports. Guys are players, and many females cause them endless angst by playing games. When it comes to cheating in relationships, Brandt sounds like a Science B-29 textbook as she repeats over and over again in The 50-Mile Rule that cheating comes down to the art of winning...