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...Eappen: It was a great opportunity to be chief resident. It was a prestigious position, leading to an academic career, and there is a lot of pressure to stay on track. But I had decided to have children, and I wanted to work part-time--but you know you're giving something up with a decision like that...
...Eappen: For the moment we are going to stay in Boston. I am going to work two days a week. I am really exhausted. I most look forward to going to bed. But I think it is helpful to help people. It's a good way to channel some energy into something positive. When I was working, I felt good about myself--good self-esteem--and a happy mother makes happy children. I don't want to feel like Louise can defeat our happiness...
...Eappen: I definitely plan to have more. But child care, that's going to be a difficult issue. I don't have as many options as other people now. Before, we had had two wonderful au pairs, but you really don't know what someone is doing when you are not there...
...Eappen: I just feel like, how did Louise become the hero and I become the villain? What is the real issue here? It is child abuse and child murder. I strive in a lot of different directions in life, and now suddenly that striving to be good seems to be bad. The only decision I wish I had made differently was [the decision] not to fire Louise. I wish...
...purple spiky hair sleeping down the hall? But we hadn't encountered any real problems, and at that early date we were still confident in the arrangement. Not long after, our au pair odyssey began in earnest. It's no tale of tragedy, like that of Sunil and Deborah Eappen. But it is, I believe, an all too common experience, one that laid bare the flawed nature of au pair programs and underscored the chaotic state of child care...