Word: feel
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Dates: during 1990-1999
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...Gore's jumbled and evolving campaign organization, which functions like a board of directors without a chairman, leaving his vice-presidential staff with the task of damage control. Still lacking is what one strategist calls the "mad genius"--the big-thinking Lee Atwater/James Carville/Dick Morris figure with a feel for the themes that will marry country and candidate. That role may be played in combination by pollster Mark Penn, media guru Bob Squier and Gore's savvy former chief of staff, Jack Quinn. But it's hard to be a genius by committee...
...live like this." And the choice? "The family didn't make the decision," says Terry. "My brother did." Says Melody: "He did not want to become a prisoner in his own body." Of Kevorkian's cause, Terry says, "You have to put yourself in harm's way when you feel there's an unjust law. There are physicians across the country performing the same medical services. There's only one doctor willing to stand up and put his life...
...Oyen Witvliet puts electrodes on a young volunteer. In a moment he will think about a hurt that has been done him and then "actively rehearse" it for 16 seconds. At the sound of a tone, he will escalate his thoughts to "nursing a grudge" and making the offender feel horrible. Another beep will cue him to shift gears and "empathize with the offender." Finally, he will imagine ways to "wish that person well." Throughout the two-hour session, the four responses occur in different sequences, and Witvliet, a professor of psychology, will measure his heart rate, blood pressure, sweat...
...Witvliet finds "robust" physiological differences between nonforgiving and forgiving states. Subjects' cardiovascular systems inevitably labor when they remember the person who hurt them. But stress is "significantly greater" when they consider revenge rather than forgiveness. Witvliet suggests that we may be drawn to hold grudges "because that makes us feel like we are more in control and we are less sad." But interviews with her subjects indicate that they felt in even greater control when they tried to empathize with their offenders and enjoyed the greatest sense of power, well-being and resolution when they managed to grant forgiveness...
...feel-good potential, however, forgiveness has more problematic reverberations than, say, Prozac. Can a woman's healing be helped by forgiving a physically abusive ex-husband who continues to savage her verbally among friends? What if they are still married and he is still beating her? Should the unrepentant be forgiven at all? Kittle, the Wisconsin restorative justice consultant, warns of misuse: "In religious traditions, there can be a sense of revictimization. They say to themselves, Here I am, and my child has been killed, and my pastor during my grieving period says, Jesus says you need to forgive...