Word: feelings
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Dates: during 1960-1969
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Making people feel better can make you feel better...
...seem real, or if you never grow up, or if you have a girl with you who has never seen it, or for once in a season, or for those who like it. But if you really want to learn about bullfighting, or if you ever get to feel strongly about it, sooner or later you will have to go to Madrid...
...student who owes his primary allegiance to a community of equals is unlikely to be racked with ambition to climb the hierarchy of some established institution. On the contrary, the institution may have been compromised in his eyes. He does not feel so strongly the compulsion to outdo Daddy or the Joneses; he may pay them the supreme insult of ignoring their way of life altogether. Psychiatrist Robert Jay Lifton speaks of a new kind of "Protean Man" who has been cut adrift from the traditions and expectations of the past. Without moorings, he moves from one activity or ideology...
Ginott also urges parents to realize how easily their children read many levels into the most innocent remarks. Don't tell a cooperative child, "You are always so good-you are an angel," he warns; a child knows he is not always perfect, and is likely to feel anxiety under "an obligation to live up to the impossible...
...barbs like "With that handwriting you won't even be able to cash unemployment checks." Ginott advises them to express their "anger without insult," and describe the offense candidly and explicitly: "When I see cards, soda bottles and potato chips scattered all over the floor, it makes me feel unpleasant. It actually makes me angry." When the point is made clearly enough, most children will calmly decide to repair the damage without hurt feelings. "Our anger has a purpose: it shows our concern," Ginott writes. "Failure to get angry at certain moments indicates indifference, not love...