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...attention to this, Ralph. Here are the telltale signs of limerence: pressure in the chest (literally "heartache"), an acute longing for reciprocation, fear of rejection, drastic mood swings, the growth of passion through adversity, and intrusive thinking about the LO, or "limerent object...
Tennov says the average limerent love affair lasts about two years. In the first wave of passion, the limerent thinks of the LO about 30% of the time, but in the second wave, which hits some months later, it can rise to 100%. The poor limerent is so hooked that nothing matters except the beloved, and feelings swoop between ecstasy and pain. This can be a drawback. You spend much of your time writing letters or diaries; you can't get your work done; all your friends decide you are a bore (mostly because you are). Limerence can strike...
...hear you asking, Ralph, why the limerent picks one person and not another. Some therapists say it's because the LO reawakens an unsolved psychic problem, and seems to offer a solution to it. The beloved, glimpsed across a crowded room, may resemble a parent, grandparent or sibling. Family Therapist Norman Paul of Boston says the beloved "tends to match someone else in your life that you've forgotten about." Tennov thinks the process is far simpler. The limerent scans the field and picks out the most attractive available lover that can reasonably be expected to return...
Most cultures think of the limerent as a bit crazy, but you're in good company, Ralph. Stendhal, Héloïse and Henry VIII were limerent. Lord Byron is the best-known dropout from limerence; after the Sturm und Drang with Lady Caroline Lamb, he simmered down. Something worth thinking about, Ralph...
...quibbles with director Kathy Lo: Tom and Jim wear suits though they both labor in a warehouse. Why? Tom's makeup is too heavy, almost feminine. A subtle grittiness is missing. Also, Tom gives his narrator speeches front and center stage, not separate enough, not isolated enough. A perch on the fire escape/balcony, even a stroll nearer the audience would have been a nice touch. The lighting was properly dim, but the frequent blackouts for scene changes were too stark, too sudden, t.v.-like, often disturbing the sense of a flow of dream images. Finally, Williams' script calls for fiddle...