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...trying to say: "Nobody cares about me, so I have to take care of myself. I'd like someone to care for me in the same way that I care about myself." If the physician treats this patient's physical complaints and nothing more, said Dr. Stainbrook, he is wasting everybody's time. For the real medical truth is hid den in the patient's locked-up emotions...
...medical meaning of many so-called psychosomatic and mental illnesses, Dr. Stainbrook believes, is that people feel dependent and want to be cared for. But this is socially unacceptable: "We force people to invent symptoms, rather than letting them say simply, 'I just need help for a while.' " Such a desire to be dependent may occur naturally at any of the major crossroads in life, Dr. Stainbrook said, and should not be regarded as an emotional illness. The real trouble in today's culture, he suggested, is that although everybody obviously must have feelings and emotions...
...censure them. No one will go to a doctor and complain merely of unhappiness, because that is not acceptable, but unhappiness along with constipation is acceptable, and the doc tor must treat both. He can prescribe medication for the constipation easily enough, but for the unhappiness, said Dr. Stainbrook, he must offer the treatment recommended by British Psychiatrist Michael Balint: his time, his personality and his attention. He can do this merely by listening attentively, and thus convincing the patient that somebody cares. Often this is all that is needed-plus the confidence that the same care will be available...