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...read you all didn't rehearse beforehand. That particular day I didn't have any instructions or anything - [Miles] would just tell me what the cadence and time signatures were and things like that. He may have had some rehearsal with the horn players, but that day he just came in with some manuscript paper and they went right to it. (Read: "Montreux: Beyond the Blues...
...mouths open. A sanitation-department guy leaning out of his truck admires from above while we wait for the light to turn. A few blocks north at another light, a construction worker motions at me to roll down the window. "How do you like it?" he asks. I tell him I'm not sure yet, since I've been in the car for approximately 3½ minutes. "Good luck," he says. I cross to the east side of Manhattan and park the car for a couple of minutes to run an errand. When I return, guys in their...
...professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts, Robert Feldman has spent most of his career studying the role deception plays in human relationships. His most recent book, The Liar in Your Life: How Lies Work and What They Tell Us About Ourselves, lays out in stark terms just how prevalent lying has become. He talked to TIME about why we all need a dose of honesty...
What's more, a lot of the time, we don't want to detect lies in other people. We are unwilling to put forward the cognitive effort to suspect the veracity of statements, and we aren't motivated to question people when they tell us things we want to hear. When we ask someone, "How are you doing?" and they say, "Fine," we really don't want to know what their aches and pains are. So we take "Fine" at face value. (Read a TIME story on ground rules for telling lies...
...aware of the possibility that people are lying to us, and we need to demand honesty in other people. Otherwise we will get a canned affirmation. At the same time, we have to demand honesty of ourselves. We have to be the kind of people who don't tell white lies. We don't have to be cruel and totally blunt, but we have to convey information honestly. The paradox here is that if you are 100% honest and blunt, you will not be a popular person. Honesty is the best policy. But it's not a perfect policy...